Does it suck to be a young man?

Topic: Why it sucks to be a young man.

Whether you believe in creationism (Adam and Eve) or evolution (ape to man), it is not difficult to believe that we are a social animal that for the longest has lived in small societies. Those societies have become major metropolitan cities, vast counties and about a decade ago, uncharted continents. If in 2019 (or in anytime of the 250,000 years of man’s existence on earth), it sucks to be a young (age 15-30) man.

It sucks (especially if you are 15-20) because:

1. You don’t have anything that society really wants.
2. You have no worldly skills.
3. You have no experience with anything that is meaningful.
4. Unless daddy is rich, you have no money (even then, you have no money of your own).
5. No real education (everyone has a university degree, you aren’t special).
6. No artistic talent worth cashing in (Justine Bieber was apparently a millionaire by 16 or something, you aren’t him either).

That makes you a big FAT loser. Trust me, for now, it doesn’t get any better.

One (young man) might ask, “But coach, I got brains and I’m pretty smart as per friends and family. That must count for something!”

Reply: Brains matter son. They do. BUT, in the long run. Without skills at 30+, being really smart is of less value than a two day old bun-kebab that’s lying in your fridge. In fact, let me tell you why it’s better to be a woman at the age of 15-30.

Women have it quite the opposite. Their peak time is between 20-30, as it is their peak fertility period. A healthy young woman between the ages of 15-30 has the potential to be the most attractive person in her society. Most advertisements use a ‘hottie’, whose at her peak fertility and has a nice smile (she doesn’t really but it’s nice considering the ‘add-ons’). This is a natural (almost evolutionary, present in our DNA memory) phenomenon for her to be the most important person in society as she is fertile and fits snugly with our hard wired programming of procreation. Multiply, multiply and multiply have been the three most important reasons for where we are today in 2019.

So who decides what value men and women have at certain ages? Society. Whether we like it or not. Society. This can be unfair, as society can value something that is very trivial. In fact, almost everything a female child does is valued to an extent that is unfair to most male children. Hence, most male children and teenagers suffer from angst and anxiety. This angst is actually helpful, as it comes out on the competitive playing fields of sport. We (most men) try hard at sports so that we can get value from our society to oblige us with a few good words of appreciation which is short lived. You, as a man, in that age group are frankly disposable and expendable. Think of soldiers, miners, electricians, laborers, construction workers, Titanic (women and children to be evacuated first – as in all such tragedies). All of these, with the inclusion of the last two centuries, are predominantly male professions. These have the highest mortality rates as compared to ALL other professions, put together, times infinity, plus one, and then some.

Coming back to that 21 year old attractive girl, who gets all the attention, all the assistance she needs/wants, everybody appreciating her minor acts of whatever, will turn 35. It is almost like Thanos snaps and all of what she enjoyed two decades ago, vanishes in a dust cloud which no one (including herself) sees. At 45, oh lord, she is not only invisible, she becomes a black hole. No one wants to even spend time with her. At 50+, if she has taken care of herself and is attractive enough, will look like a cougar which is something we (unjustly) all make fun of. A pity f**k here and there with no meaningful companionship is in store for her if she hasn’t settled down with a man.

Coach, we were talking about why it sucks to be a man.

Reply: I digress. It does, but not when you cross 30. This comes with a disclaimer though, champ. The 15-20 years of early adulthood, if you have used your time and brains to build the things you lack as mentioned above, you will be (post Thanos’ snap) an attractive commodity. Understand this, no man, NO MAN, is an island onto his own. You can proclaim yourself to be a lone wolf. BULLSHIT. You surround yourself with other men to help build something. That is quite literally how our fore-FATHERS built, well, everything. Your value comes from your contribution to your society. You are of least value to your society between the ages of 15-30 as you are in possession of only brains and time. Use these two possessions (that you have received for FREE) to build on your likes, hobbies and interests. Outline those likes, hobbies and interests that can:

1. Make you money.
2. Keep you creative.
3. Keep you fit.

Be calm. Stop complaining and whining like a b***h. Do not take unnecessary stress from things that really won’t matter 3-6 month’s down the line. Focus on the things that are in your control and do not fret those that aren’t. Use those possessions to build on your 4 Capitals (which will define you as a successful man).

1. Personal Capital.
2. Emotional Capital.
3. Social Capital.
4. Financial Capital.

If you’ve spent your neglected, disposable, useless years working on building these 4 capitals, you’re going to enjoy ageing like wine. Best of luck buddy.