Four Capitals that you need to build in your life (boys).

1. Personal Capital.
2. Emotional Capital.
3. Social Capital.
4. Financial Capital.

Personal capital:

What you invest in yourself, in your mind and your body. Books, working out, a new language etc. These are deposits in your personal capital. The knowledge and experiences that you gain from life. The mistakes you make and lessons that you learn from them. Don’t worry if you make mistakes, it’s all good as long as you learn from them. Then go on and make brand new ones. Done is better than perfect.

Emotional capital:

Feelings of support that you have that can withstand any blow life deals you. It can also bring you the motivation you need to go and pursue something new/exciting. You need that strength of character, which helps you cross an abyss while on a tight rope. It helps you continue on your path. When you exercise, you feel good about yourself and your emotional capital rises. Your family, brethren, colleagues, coming to your aid/moral support when you need it. Priceless.

Social capital:

The people in your environment, friends, colleagues, milieu. The people in your life. Even online. However many you interact with. How you interact with them. Your business relations and everything in between. This is the people you know, and the people who know you. This is going to stink of the early 00’s, but “It’s not what you know, but who you know!”

Financial capital:

This last one, is straightforward, it’s the accumulation of money or other convertible assets that can be used to invest in other businesses or purchase larger assets. Bling bling bling, is the thing!!!

You will never have all four figured out at birth. So don’t fret not having these right now. Oh, but you can leverage each for the other. You can improve one or the other, by drawing on one or the other.

For example, as my uncle, my first mentor, showed me that every morning he would send a Good morning message to his business associates. Even those that he met once a month or quarter. I asked him, don’t people get annoyed by said messages. He replied, “Some might, but none of them will complain that I do. If anything, they will have a good morning from me waiting for them whence they lift their phone up first thing in the morning. Showing them that I share with them best wishes”. This reflected in his meetings with them, which usually went his way, as they all had good feelings about my uncle. Hence, he used his Social capital to increase his Financial capital. The important lesson I learnt here was “Always be shilling and closing”.

Another one, in a certain family, I noticed that all the men had their respective businesses and all doing well, they would hold a meeting (roughly 6-8 times a year) discussing each other’s intricate business problems. The risks they took, the changes they made, their profits and their losses. Just by discussion itself, they would have the emotional strength to either recover their losses, or to start learning a new skill from scratch knowing that their closest family members were there for steady support in dire straits (and that’s music to anyone’s ears). This is leveraging their Emotional capital to either further their Financial capital, or Personal capital by having the courage to learn/start something new.

Continuing from where we left off, if you are a young man in that young (15-30) expendable, lacking any value stage, and lacking daddy’s financial capital, don’t fret. You have a good portion of the other three.

Your Personal capital:

You have a healthy mind and body. If not a healthy mind, don’t fret, those are minor defects (that can be tackled) and not disorders (ADHD, difficulty to exercise focus, lacking self-control, etc.) that this feminist/liberal rhetoric has been floating around to suggest. Don’t let that kind of talk b***h you up into an incel. You can, will and must be fixed.

Your Emotional capital:

Family takes first place. Your situation at home. If it’s not too great, then close friends. After you father and uncles, your male friends will always guide you to do what is best without judging you. Sure, they’ll call you a p***y. It’s all banter. You’d call them that too. We all should do that to each other. If you have chosen rightly, you will have strong, stand-up guy friends who know how to support you in times of need. It’s your responsibility to let them know that you would have done the same for them. However, do not ever ask a woman (including your mother) for advice as she is programmed to tell you what you want to hear rather than what you need to hear. She will have her manipulative agendas that generally are not so righteous. Also, because she is a woman, if you show any sign of weakness, she’ll lose much, if not all, of the respect she has for you.

Your Social capital:

Everyone from your father’s, family’s and friends’ contact lists is what builds your Social capital. If you noticed that your relatives’ contacts generally will entertain you for a meeting rather than some random person who crossed paths on the street. That’s Social capital boys. Simple as that.

Build on these. Leverage these to raise the others to achieve a balance. If you spend all your life focusing on only building financial capital, your boat will capsize and you’ll be in the drink.